Man Love.

To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize,and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire … those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.


Excerpted from The Politics of Reality by Marilyn Frye

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Feeling Conflicted about the Patriarchy.

Feeling Conflicted About the Patriarchy

by james bezerra

All of my

high-minded

intellectualism

goes out the window

when mini-skirts.

Because we

convinced you -

with our impeccable,

unstoppable,

mass-marketing Capitalism machine -

that your tan bare legs,

smooth and long,

are the same

as freedom,

as expression.

Of course your

ass-tight, nearly sheer

black tights

are the most comfortable thing you own;

we’ve made them that way.

We’ve gotten

two generations of you

laced into

Victoria’s Secret

and we made it hugely expensive.

I recognize how poorly

we’ve treated you

how much we’ve sexualized you

and how much we shame you

for acting how we ask you to.

And yet,

I still love you

in La Perla,

in Agent Provocateur,

or in nothing.

We want

our daughters

to be nuns

and everyone else’s daughters

to be strippers.

I want

to save you

from me

but I realize

even that is a misogyny.

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